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Sunday, June 29, 2014
attracting th good frequency
Attracting good vibes to make your day is as simple as feeling it and sharing it with others the moment you step out of your home. By saying " good morning!" |
Friday, August 24, 2012
Mantra
What Is a Mantra and How Does It WorkA Selection from Healing MantrasA saying from the Vedas claims that "Speech is the essence of humanity." All of what humanity thinks and ultimately becomes is determined by the expression of ideas and actions through speech and its derivative, writing. Everything, the Vedas maintain, comes into being through speech. Ideas remain unactualized until they are created through the power of speech. Similarly, The New Testament, Gospel of John, starts "In the beginning was The Word. And the Word was with God and the Word was God..." In mainstream Vedic practices, most Buddhist techniques and classical Hinduism, mantra is viewed as a necessity for spiritual advancement and high attainment. In The Kalachakra Tantra, by the Dalai Lama and Jeffrey Hopkins, the Dalai Lama states, "Therefore, without depending upon mantra...Buddhahood cannot be attained." Clearly, there is a reason why such widely divergent sources of religious wisdom as the Vedas, the New Testament and the Dalai Lama speak in common ideas. Here are some important ideas about mantra which will enable you to begin a practical understanding of what mantra is and what it can do. Definition # 1: Mantras are energy-based sounds.Saying any word produces an actual physical vibration. Over time, if we know what the effect of that vibration is, then the word may come to have meaning associated with the effect of saying that vibration or word. This is one level of energy basis for words. Another level is intent. If the actual physical vibration is coupled with a mental intention, the vibration then contains an additional mental component which influences the result of saying it. The sound is the carrier wave and the intent is overlaid upon the wave form, just as a colored gel influences the appearance and effect of a white light. In either instance, the word is based upon energy. Nowhere is this idea more true than for Sanskrit mantra. For although there is a general meaning which comes to be associated with mantras, the only lasting definition is the result or effect of saying the mantra. Definition #2: Mantras create thought-energy waves.The human consciousness is really a collection of states of consciousness which distributively exist throughout the physical and subtle bodies. Each organ has a primitive consciousness of its own. That primitive consciousness allows it to perform functions specific to it. Then come the various systems. The cardio-vascular system, the reproductive system and other systems have various organs or body parts working at slightly different stages of a single process. Like the organs, there is a primitive consciousness also associated with each system. And these are just within the physical body. Similar functions and states of consciousness exist within the subtle body as well. So individual organ consciousness is overlaid by system consciousness, overlaid again by subtle body counterparts and consciousness, and so ad infinitum. The ego with its self-defined "I" ness assumes a pre-eminent state among the subtle din of random, semi-conscious thoughts which pulse through our organism. And of course, our organism can "pick up" the vibration of other organisms nearby. The result is that there are myriad vibrations riding in and through the subconscious mind at any given time. Mantras start a powerful vibration which corresponds to both a specific spiritual energy frequency and a state of consciousness in seed form. Over time, the mantra process begins to override all of the other smaller vibrations, which eventually become absorbed by the mantra. After a length of time which varies from individual to individual, the great wave of the mantra stills all other vibrations. Ultimately, the mantra produces a state where the organism vibrates at the rate completely in tune with the energy and spiritual state represented by and contained within the mantra. At this point, a change of state occurs in the organism. The organism becomes subtly different. Just as a laser is light which is coherent in a new way, the person who becomes one with the state produced by the mantra is also coherent in a way which did not exist prior to the conscious undertaking of repetition of the mantra. Definition #3: Mantras are tools of power and tools for power.They are formidable. They are ancient. They work. The word "mantra" is derived from two Sanskrit words. The first is "manas" or "mind," which provides the "man" syllable. The second syllable is drawn from the Sanskrit word "trai" meaning to "protect" or to "free from." Therefore, the word mantra in its most literal sense means "to free from the mind." Mantra is, at its core, a tool used by the mind which eventually frees one from the vagaries of the mind. But the journey from mantra to freedom is a wondrous one. The mind expands, deepens and widens and eventually dips into the essence of cosmic existence. On its journey, the mind comes to understand much about the essence of the vibration of things. And knowledge, as we all know, is power. In the case of mantra, this power is tangible and wieldable. Statements About Mantra
Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
Gaining RESPECt by: CElestine Chua
10 Ways To Earn the Respect of Others
Regardless of whether you are a teenager, a student, a new member in your team/company, or someone starting out in the industry, you can be well respected by others. In this post, I share 10 ways on how you can be a well respected person. These 10 ways can be carried out no matter who you are:
Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
IS MONEY EVERYTHING?
The Beatles sang that money can't buy you love. But what about happiness? Research consistently shows that the more money people have, the more likely they are to report being satisfied with their lives. And that makes sense: money buys you things that make life easier and more satisfying; the easier your life, the happier you tend to be. That relationship isn't entirely linear, since there's a limit to how much wealth can please you; the happiness benefit of an increasing income is especially powerful among people who don't have much money to start with, and diminishes as wealth increases. But studies also reveal that as average income levels have risen over time — in the U.S. and European nations, for example — residents of those countries have not reported being any happier than people were 30 or 40 years ago. It's a paradox that while income and happiness may be associated within a population at any given moment, overall economic growth does not appear to correspond to a boost in national satisfaction over time. To understand why, researchers at the University of Warwick and Cardiff University decided to break down how individual people evaluate their income. What does wealth mean to people? Previous work has suggested that people tend to value their own wealth more — and are happier — when it compares favorably to everyone else's. The so-called reference-income hypothesis holds that it's not simply how much money you make that contributes to satisfaction, but how much more money you make than, say, the national average. The higher your salary than the norm, the happier you tend to be. That could explain in part why populations as a whole do not experience sunnier dispositions with economic growth, since a majority of individuals may not fall above the national income average. But the reference-income hypothesis is rather abstract. The researchers wondered whether there was a more nuanced way to capture how people valued their income. They reasoned that people tend to make specific comparisons of personal wealth, not only with the average income of the larger population, but with the individual incomes of their neighbors, colleagues at work or friends from college. And the higher their rank, the greater their sense of happiness and self-worth would likely be. "For example, people might care about whether they are the second most highly paid person, or the eighth most highly paid person, in their comparison set," write the authors, Chris Boyce, a psychologist at the University of Warwick, and Simon Moore, a psychologist at Cardiff University. Working with a data set of 12,000 adults in Britain, Boyce and Moore assigned a rank to each participant based on income, and compared these positions to their answers on life-satisfaction surveys. The status rankings were determined using a statistical formula that incorporated factors such as geography, age, gender and educational status. So, a participant's income could be ranked along with those of neighbors, for instance, or with those of other similarly educated peers. Boyce and Moore found that an individual's rank, viewed this way, was a stronger predictor of happiness than absolute wealth. The higher a person ranked within his age group or neighborhood, the more status he had and the happier he was regardless of how much he made in dollars (or, in the study's case, pounds). "What we're trying to do is understand and explain why, over 30 to 40 years, the large economic growth we have experienced hasn't made us any happier," says Boyce. "If absolute income matters, as we increased our income, everybody should get happier at a national level, but we don't seem to. So what we are showing is that in terms of life satisfaction, rank is a better predictor than absolute wealth." The data did not include an analysis of which ranking scales were more powerfully associated with satisfaction — that is, whether you are happier or not if you make more than your neighbor or if you make more than others in your profession — but that's the next step in the research. Money may not buy you love but it may be enough to purchase status — and a little bit of happiness. Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
Thursday, August 23, 2012
NURSING BOARD EXAM Results 2012
Thursday, August 23, 2012Top 10 Nursing Board Exam Passers June / July 2012Below are the list of the topnotchers from June / July 2012 Board Exam Result1. Roxanne Trinity Dotingco Lim, University Of Santo Tomas, 86.20% 2. Kristen Erika Hife Pino, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 85.40% Carmela Celebrado Shimizu, University Of Saint Anthony, 85.40% 3. John Vincent Usita Magalong, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 85.20% Wayne Steven Miranda Zamora, West Visayas State University-La Paz, 85.20% 4. Joey Gonzalez Dela Torre Jr., Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 85.00% 5. Joener Balediata Bangero, West Visayas State University-La Paz, 84.80% Vanessa Joy Palacio Gasat, University Of The Cordilleras (For.Baguio C.F.), 84.80% Mar John Almedora Jambora, Xavier University, 84.80% 6. Katherine Joyce Umali Asufra, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.60% Gizelle Capati Cano, Angeles University Foundation, 84.60% Ainan Rey Fria Casupang, Ateneo De Naga University, 84.60% Lian Sidney Baritua Chan, Chinese General Hospital College Of Nursing & Liberal Arts, 84.60% Jennifer Kaye Licup Ducao, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.60% Paulina Garcia Española, Riverside College, 84.60% Vinie Oberiano Oberiano, West Visayas State University-La Paz, 84.60% Merrill Van Chua Yu , Velez College, 84.60% 7. Karl Phillip Lumio Avillo , Southern Luzon State University-Lucban (Slpc), 84.40% Mara Lyka Ellenite Natividad Capalad, Western Mindanao State U-Zamboanga City, 84.40% Maryelle Go Casupanan, Saint Louis University, 84.40% Cesar Ian Tan Claro, University Of Saint La Salle, 84.40% James Patrick Ramos De Vera, Chinese General Hospital College Of Nursing & Liberal Arts, 84.40% Sachiko Solis Estreller, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.40% Jemi-Kezia Jimenez Iriñgan, Medical College Of Northern Philippines, 84.40% Kristian Ron Pajarillaga Lalic, Chinese General Hospital College Of Nursing & Liberal Arts, 84.40% Ronessa Irene Magallanes Maglinte, University Of Santo Tomas, 84.40% Nurhani Salapuddin Tulawie, Arellano University-Pasay, 84.40% 8. Anna Lee Delmas Bantasan, Saint Louis University, 84.20% Jose Orillo Barriga Jr, Velez College, 84.20% Gina Macil Baylosis, Xavier University, 84.20% Bayani Magat Bunal Jr, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.20% Lalaine Daisy Pingol Erpe, Riverside College, 84.20% Christine Camille Abesamis Estela, University Of Nueva Caceres, 84.20% Rumell Niño Sallong Gaoaen, Easter College Inc, 84.20% Beverly Kaye Cabrera Macagba, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.20% Darcy Lizette Santos Reroma, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.20% Gellie Golingan Santic, Bicol University-Legazpi, 84.20% Stephanie Marie Carbon Seno, University Of Santo Tomas, 84.20% Dytha Marie Moscoso Tamisan, Riverside College, 84.20% Christian Wilson Rosales Turalde, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.20% Dawn Gaid Yana, Bukidnon State College-Malaybalay, 84.20% 9. Amanda Rae Hernandez Alojado, Ateneo De Davao University, 84.00% Hayma Mabandes Ameril, Arellano University-Pasay, 84.00% Ronan Garcia Ang, Western Mindanao State U-Zamboanga City, 84.00% Louella Corpuz Ariola, Saint Louis University, 84.00% Benjo Plaza Ato, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.00% Roger Ayuyang Brazil Jr, Medical College Of Northern Philippines, 84.00% Eunice Manuel Chan, University Of Santo Tomas, 84.00% Krizia Marie Mila Cornel, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.00% Jane Therese De La Rosa Dorilag, West Visayas State University-La Paz, 84.00% Divine Mercy Cuarteros Elcano, Camarines Sur Polytechnic College-Nabua, 84.00% Jessica Franchizca Llanera Estrellado, Silliman University, 84.00% Maria Ferena Beatriz Gonzales Feleo, Brokenshire College-Socsksargen, Inc, 84.00% Diana Belingon Foronda, Medical College Of Northern Philippines, 84.00% Paula Isabel Gimena Franco, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.00% Feliz Gwenmor Ferrer Fuentes, Saint Paul University-Dumaguete, 84.00% Anwar Jan Licuan Garaza, Mariano Marcos State University-Batac, 84.00% Abigail Batas Gases, Southwestern University, 84.00% John Derick Sabornido Guillen, Pamantasan Ng Lungsod Ng Maynila, 84.00% Erika Yvonve Fortaleza Manolo, University Of Saint La Salle, 84.00% Jian Carlo Ramirez Narag, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.00% Nathalie Marudo Omal, Far Eastern University-Nicanor Reyes Medical Foundation, 84.00% Henry Olivo Pinos, University Of The East Ramon Magsaysay Mem Medical Ctr, 84.00% Ebony Pinono Quinio, Saint Louis University, 84.00% Marchie Melgarejo Real, Universidad De Santa Isabel (Col De Sta Isabel), 84.00% Hazel Monique Raquedan Sayson, Saint Louis University, 84.00% Laura Suzanne Kapili Suarez, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 84.00% Jeffrey Barcelon Tanglao, Far Eastern University-Manila, 84.00% Lour Ann Valerie Mata Tian, Velez College, 84.00% Ma Jealyn Dela Paz Valenzuela, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 84.00% 10. Joseph Gabriel Asuncion Abello, University Of Santo Tomas, 83.80% Jason Almonguera Adoyogan, Filamer Christian College, 83.80% Alexis Nacionales Aguinaldo, Saint Louis University, 83.80% Louiza Mae Rabutan Andaya, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 83.80% Nicoleo Christian Ramos Ardiente, University Of Santo Tomas, 83.80% Alvin Teves Baring, Velez College, 83.80% Leilene Tuzon Binaluyo, Cdh Allied Medical Colleges (For.Calamba Doctors), 83.80% Howell Kim Escota Calupit, De La Salle University-Health Sciences Institute, 83.80% Karl Jayson Gentugao Cañete, West Visayas State University-La Paz, 83.80% Kristine Fronda Cernal, San Juan De Dios Educational Foundation, Inc, 83.80% Stephen Lloyd Norris Dela Cruz, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 83.80% Billie Jane Tanacio Diawan, Saint Louis University, 83.80% Ethel Anne Grace Magdamit Dionisio, Southern Luzon State University-Lucban (Slpc), 83.80% Guadamarie Angeli Arepal Estillore, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 83.80% Ma Charmaine Cebu Fallorina, Saint Louis University, 83.80% Trixia Marix Clemente Garcia, Benguet State University-La Trinidad, 83.80% Henri Joshua Respecia Igna, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 83.80% Khelvin Guce Jocson, De La Salle University-Lipa, 83.80% Alma Almira Apao Jumawan, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 83.80% Denim Embalzado Maghanoy, Mindanao State University-Iligan Institute Of Technology, 83.80% Kristel Vanessa Saraos Meña, Centro Escolar University-Makati, 83.80% Andre Anthony Abadia OsayaVelez College, 83.80% Gerald Tangonan Pagaling, Saint Louis University, 83.80% Ana Charlene Rocamora Quinto, Far Eastern University-Nicanor Reyes Medical Foundation, 83.80% Aeron Love Perez Ramos, University Of Santo Tomas, 83.80% Jailene Faye Castillejos Rojas, University Of Santo Tomas, 83.80% Ria Janine Alquiza Soriano, Far Eastern University-Nicanor Reyes Medical Foundation, 83.80% Cyrus Cesar Rodriguez Tejam, Cebu Normal University (Cebu State College), 83.80% Julienne Marie Baguio Tingzon, University Of The Philippines-Manila, 83.80% Vanessa Migallos Tocle, University Of Cebu-Banilad, 83.80% Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
ROBREDO Case
Body of co-pilot in Robredo plane crash found as search ends August 23, 2012 8:13am The search for the victims of a plane crash in Masbate that killed Interior Secretary Jesse Robredo last Saturday effectively ended Thursday after the last missing victim was positively identified. Defense Secretary Voltaire Gazmin confirmed the body sighted off Masbate was that of Nepalese co-pilot Kshitz Chand, adding the Civil Aviation Authority of the Philippines will now take over the case. "The body was positively identified by the father and brother to be that of the co-pilot. With this development, we shall now conclude the search and rescue operations," Gazmin said in a briefing, parts of which were aired on dzBB radio. On Tuesday, divers recovered the body of Robredo from the plane, and that of pilot Jessup Bahinting on Wednesday. Chand's body was found near the crash site Thursday morning. A separate report by dzBB's Benjie Liwanag Jr. said Chand's father and brother wept as they identified his body. "We condole with the family of Sec. Robredo, Jessup Bahinting, and Kshitz Chand. May they find all the strength in this time of bereavement," Gazmin said. He said they are now turning over the case to the CAAP, which is investigating the incident. Robredo, Bahinting, and Chand were killed after the Piper Seneca plane they were riding from Cebu to Naga City crashed off Masbate Saturday in an attempt to do an emergency landing at Masbate airport. Only Robredo's aide survived the incident. — GMA News Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
Body of co-pilot in Robredo plane crash found as search ends August 23, 2012 8:13am The search for the victims of a plane crash in Masbate that killed Interior Secretary Jesse Robredo last Saturday effectively ended Thursday after the last missing victim was positively identified. Defense Secretary Voltaire Gazmin confirmed the body sighted off Masbate was that of Nepalese co-pilot Kshitz Chand, adding the Civil Aviation Authority of the Philippines will now take over the case. "The body was positively identified by the father and brother to be that of the co-pilot. With this development, we shall now conclude the search and rescue operations," Gazmin said in a briefing, parts of which were aired on dzBB radio. On Tuesday, divers recovered the body of Robredo from the plane, and that of pilot Jessup Bahinting on Wednesday. Chand's body was found near the crash site Thursday morning. A separate report by dzBB's Benjie Liwanag Jr. said Chand's father and brother wept as they identified his body. "We condole with the family of Sec. Robredo, Jessup Bahinting, and Kshitz Chand. May they find all the strength in this time of bereavement," Gazmin said. He said they are now turning over the case to the CAAP, which is investigating the incident. Robredo, Bahinting, and Chand were killed after the Piper Seneca plane they were riding from Cebu to Naga City crashed off Masbate Saturday in an attempt to do an emergency landing at Masbate airport. Only Robredo's aide survived the incident. — GMA News Ethel Magalona 'your choice is your destiny' -e.magalona |
Thursday, February 16, 2012
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Saturday, June 25, 2011
Ugliness
| "What is essential is invisible to the naked eye". This very famous line is according to the 'Little Prince". Any Humanities student should have come across this. Beauty is skin deep indeed, one should look beyond what the eyes can see. This definitely will liberate you from the usual thinking of average thinkers. Hope we're more intelligent enough to comprehend this. |
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Finding a job?
| QUESTION: What do you do after graduation? ANSWER: Start finding yourself a job LOGIC: Stop thinking of going to school again, give yourself a break. Start looking for a job and start reaping what you have worked for since Day1 in school. After a year of work , with much maturity and organized thoughts, then start planning again for what do you do next...but as you can see...you have to work for now and delay pleasure!........ms.e Hereunder are some proven tips from M.Baber: Over the last couple decades Employers and Human Resource specialists have devised a set of informal guidelines to help look beyond the basic information offered by a job candidate in a job interview. The guidelines are a general list of attributes that employers seek in a person they may hire. Employers know that job seekers with those basic character traits will very likely do well as an employee. So, as a job candidate, if you adjust your job resume and job interviewing skills to accommodate the requirements reviewed here, you may improve your odds of getting hired into the job you prefer. Immediately below are the characteristics of a top job candidate.Employers expect that each of the following elements become observable with every serious job candidate. If they don't see those attributes demonstrated in your behavior, your chances of getting hired are slim. But, if you plan and prepare yourself to reflect the following attributes as you go through your job interview process, you will improve your chances of getting the job offer. In this case, actions do speak louder than words. Prepare yourself for the following: o Good Job Résumé - clearly outlining applicable skills & achievements Conversely, the top employee characteristics go directly to the heart of being a good employee, as opposed to being a good job interviewee. By expressing these attributes in practical ways as you go through your job interview process, you will supercharge your ability to impress an employer. Don't just say the words. Perform the actions. Offer examples from your work experiences that illustrate your ability to conform to these following attributes: o Highly motivated to work hard |
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Calamities and Disasters 2011
| The onset of calamities and disasters in 2011 especially in countries such as japan and New Zealand allows us to contemplate on the meaning of our lives. Everything that we have worked for becomes futile. I just hope that more meaning can be derived from this series of unfortunate events. What do you think? |
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Hope for the flowers
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hope for the flowers
| Hope for the flowers is a book by Trina Paulus. A story that children will love and adults could definitely learn from. Its story started from a striped caterpillar hatched out of an egg on a leaf. After consuming all of the leaf where he was born, Stripe decided to explore his surroundings. From here he discovered a pile of other caterpillars moving onto a pillar of caterpillars. Stripe decided to follow the pile which he found to be moving towards the top. Everybody was pushing onto anybody, pushing themselves onto the top hurt others because they stepped onto their heads, shoulders etc. It was way too painful to reach for the top, at this point Stripe suddenly saw a yellow caterpillar who was being violently pushed by the other caterpillars.Stripe and yellow at that instant felt the connection between them and decided to go down the pillar and lived together. Kissing, hugging and eating the whole time together and enjoying each others company. And lo, one day Stripe realized that there might be something more to life than doing these things with Yellow. Hence, Stripe decided to leave Yellow behind to accomplished his unfinished business of reaching for the top of the pillar. This time he promised to himself that he will never be distracted again. While pushing himself onto the pillar, suddenly there was this Yellow insect flying around him and trying to gesture something onto him. Stripe considered this as plain distraction and so continued to push himself up the pillar. Just below the top of the pillar he heard some caterpillars exclaimed that there was actually nothing at the top of the pillar. Stripe did not lose his enthusiasm but considered this as more of a challenge.Upon reaching for the top, Stripe was surprised to see that indeed nothing was at the top. He even discovered that there are hundreds of Caterpillar pillar around similar to what they have now. Stripe got frustrated and decided to go down the pillar. At the foot of the pillar, Stripe saw this flying insect again as it gestures something onto him. Nothing matters now anyway especially that Yellow was no longer with him. And so, Stripe follow what was being shown unto him by that yellow flying insect. He wove and wove this sticky substance around his body until he was completely covered. For a while Stripe was nowhere in sight until one day, lo and behold, Stripe pushed himself out of his pupa and out came a beautiful stripe butterfly. Stripe have metamorphosed into a butterfly and that gave hiw fulfillment and the meaning that he have searched for. I hope this story for little kids have awakened your mind of the life that we should have lived...a life of the real fulfillment and the real essence of happiness....Insights please! |
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Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Moving ON...
One of the hardest things for any person, man or woman, is letting go of a relationship that's not meant to be. We are often attached to the illusion that this person is "the One" for us, and that if we don't have him or her, we'll never find somebody new. Holding on to disappointment, hurt, blame, anger, resentment, and bitterness, we convince ourselves that "all men are jerks" or "all women are bitches." If you've just got out of a relationship and are harbouring a lot of resentment against your partner or against the opposite sex, now is NOT the time to start dating again. Your anger and bitterness will poison even the most loving relationship. When we hang on to baggage from past relationships, we end up projecting our pain on to others in our lives - our families, children and, eventually, our new partners. Our emotional baggage is usually rooted in our relationships with our own parents, or in bad relationships we've had in the past. We have to lighten our load and heal our pain before we can love again. Some of the practices you need to cultivate in order to heal yourself are: · Radical Personal Responsibility: Take responsibility for the role you played in your relationship, either by taking inappropriate action, not acting altogether or expecting too much. Stop blaming your partner. Own your feelings, so you can change them. · Self-Awareness: Are there patterns that keep repeating in your relationships? Do you have a tendency to get into relationships with abusive people, or become abusive yourself? Become mindful of your reactions to people and situations. Learn to identify your patterns, and the unhealthy beliefs that are causing them. · Acceptance: Accept yourself and your partner the way you are. Accept the fact that the relationship was not meant to be, that it didn't work because it was not your highest and best. · Forgiveness: Learn to forgive yourself for all the damage that your anger and pain may have caused, and forgive others for being human and acting out their own anger and pain. · Gratitude: Be grateful that you're out of a bad relationship, so you can be with someone better suited to your needs. Be grateful for all the lessons you've learned from your partner. · Compassion: Learn to look at all people as human beings dealing with their own pain. Spend some time seeing the world through their eyes and you'll become less judgmental. · Detachment: Learn to let go of unhealthy attachments to people, things and situations. · Independence: Stop expecting other people to give you the love and acceptance you should be giving yourself. Learn to meet your own needs, let go of expectations, and enter a healthy, inter-dependent relationship. · Optimism: Optimism is not essential, but it makes life so much easier. An optimistic outlook, positive attitude and belief that everything happens for the best, can help you bounce back from your loss. Have faith that the best is yet to come. It takes a lot of tears, hard work, and introspection to break the chains of the past. But it's worth every moment! The feeling of freedom and contentment that you experience is just awesome. Getting rid of your anger and hurt will help you stop blaming others for your pain, and allowed you to see your former partner as they really are - a wonderful, sensitive human being with the capacity to love, to care, and to hurt just as deeply as you. It will allow you to love life again, to see the beauty in every experience, to be non-judgmental and open to new relationships. No time spent in a relationship is ever wasted. Ever experience is a lesson and only when you learn the lesson will you progress to the next level. So stop beating yourself up over all the years you "wasted" with that "loser." If it didn't work, it was probably not meant to be. You can't force someone to love you, just as you can't force commitment or marriage. These are stages that should happen naturally, when it feels right for both people. Contrary to popular opinion (and sad love songs) love is not meant to hurt. If you're in pain, what you're experiencing is not love, but attachment or codependence. Too often we fall in love, not with our partner, but with the IDEA of being in love. It's best to let go of a relationship that's causing too much pain. Instead of wallowing in the past and writing your own sad love song, do your inner work, get rid of the anger and disappointment and get on with your life. Let go of your partner with love, so you can move past your hurt and learn to love again. |
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Monday, February 7, 2011
Angelo Reyes dead @ 65
MANILA, Philippines—(UPDATE 4) Former Armed Forces Chief and Defense Secretary Angelo Tomas Reyes on Tuesday morning committed suicide by shooting himself in front of the grave of his mother at the Loyola Memorial Park in Marikina City. He was 65. De Leon said that Reyes's son Jett called him up to inform him of the incident. Reyes, who earlier suffered a mild stroke before the congressional investigations on the alleged AFP financial irregularities, said he could not take anymore the smear campaign against his name and his family. "Not my family," he said. Reyes, who loved his mother very much when she was still alive, earlier told the Philippine Daily Inquirer in an interview that he would never do anything that would besmirch the name of "my good mother." In a press conference aired on radio and television, Health Secretary Enrique Ona confirmed Reyes has died from gunshot wound to the heart. He said Reyes was proclaimed dead on arrival at the Quirino Memorial Medical Center in Quezon City. Ona said the doctors tried to resuscitate Reyes who was brought to the hospital at 7:30 a.m. from Loyola Memorial Park in Marikina City where he visited the grave of his mother. Ona refused to say what caused the gunshot wounds and could not determine the kind of gun used, saying all these were under investigation. He "was brought here to the emergency room, wala nang pulso at di na humihinga. Nilagyan ng tubo at nag-resuscitation, swero, binigyan ng gamot. But after 45 minutes, which means that at 8:32 a.m., talagang wala na (without pulse and not breathing. He was tubated and resuscitated, put on IV. But after 45 minutes, which means that at 8:32 a.m., he's really gone)." He had a gunshot wound to the heart and an external wound to the back. However, doctors cannot determine yet if the bullet wound was self-inflicted. Ona said that an autopsy of the body of the retired general will be conducted to determine if he had committed suicide. A bullet wound on the left side of the chest near the heart was the cause of death. "Malamang may tama sa puso (The heart was probably hit)," Ona told reporters. In a separate press briefing, Dr. Fernando Lopez, a spokesman for the Quirino Memorial Medical Center, said Reyes was brought to their hospital at 7:45 a.m. Tuesday. Reyes had no blood pressure, heart beat, and respiratory rate, his pupils were dilated, he was not breathing and had cold, clammy skin, Lopez said. A gunshot wound, with entry point at the 5th intercostal space on the left side of the chest and with one centimeter in diameter was seen. The exit wound was on the left side of the back, also 1 centimeter in diamater. Reyes, a graduate of Philippine Military Academy Class '66, was AFP chief under President Joseph Estrada, and secretary of defense, interior and local government, and energy during the term of President Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo from 2001 to 2003. He graduated as the class valedictorian in high school and was among the top ten graduates of the PMA. He went on to obtain two masteral degrees, namely: Masters in Business Administration from Asian Institute of Management in 1973 and a Master of Public Administration from Harvard's John F. Kennedy School of Government in 1991. He also took up International Defense Management Course in Monterey, California in 1983. In 1987, he graduated No. 1 in Trust Operations Management Course conducted by the Trust Institutes Foundation of the Philippines at the Ateneo Business School which eventually earned him a scholarship to the Northwestern University in Chicago, Illinois. Katherine Evangelista, INQUIRER.net; Nancy Carvajal, PDI; Radyo Inquirer |






